Knowing who we are is the first step in awaking to a life filled with Purpose. Though our Souls our tattooed with unconditional perfection, over time, we lose site of our divinity as we have the golden civilizations of yesteryear. Tending to our sacred garden begins with parents and is quickly turned over to institutions of learning, religion, and pop-culture. At some point, mom and dad leave the keys to our psyche on the kitchen counter and we snatch them up with the vigor and bravado of a teen that just passed his driver’s test.
Though we are “legit” we are completely unprepared to navigate life in the fast lane.
With sites and sounds coming at us from all angles we rely on our underdeveloped limbic system (aka “lizard brain”) as our emotional differential engine. The limbic system is a complex system of nerves and networks in the brain, involving several areas near the edge of the cortex concerned with instinct and mood. It controls the basic emotions (fear, pleasure, anger) and drives (hunger, sex, dominance, care of offspring). When limbic mode is active the parts of our “gray matter”, that matter most, shut down. All other cranial processes deactivate and energy is shifted to our heart, lungs, and limbs in support of survival. We are rendered incapable of rational thought as our brain becomes deprived of blood, fuel, and oxygen. Additionally, adrenaline and cortisol are released to heighten our awareness, reflexes, and strength. Think mild mannered Bruce Banner turning into the Incredible Hulk when he is provoked or angered. In a Spiritual context we call this Unconscious Masculine Energy. Men, sound familiar? Women, has this been present in your life?
UNCONSCIOUS MASCULINE ENERGY
Though this stress response served our caveman cousins well this dynamic has limited benefit in modern society. In my experience, unleashing Unconscious Masculine Energy (UME) in almost any circumstance we face in modern society serves no one and, by some accounts, is viewed as an immoral act. The use of UME is especially harmful when used against women and children. Females have evolved in such a way that they physiologically and emotionally reject UME. The fairer sex looks to her Man to create a safe and supportive environment. When UME is present trust is shattered and safety is threatened.
I know this road well. The guilt and shame a Man carries, from hurting those he loves, creates a binary path to either despair or redemption. When placing blame for our upset on others we stay stuck in despair. By not taking responsibility we deepen the wounds (guilt, shame) that cause the hurt (fear, distrust) for others and ourselves. This is the false or shadow path that leads to prolonged pain and suffering.
We do have another choice and that choice is finding redemption through finding our Purpose. When we find our Purpose we find ourselves. When we find ourselves we create a world that is safe for others.
FINDING PURPOSE, RETURNING HOME
My journey in discovering this hidden treasure was born out of a silent calling from within. This voice was a familiar tone that would appear, often uninvited, and irregularly throughout my life. Finding my Purpose was akin to discovering the answer to the ancient question posed in our previous post. I AM was always right were God left it when we came into this world. When I turned my attention inward, and to trust my resiliency, the connection to “I AM” become real.
My PURPOSE spawns from this place and also originates from within. I don’t “Do” this for others but it is how I “Be” for myself. There is nothing a man can accomplish on the Goal Line that substitutes the sharing of his divine and authentic self, and when he does this, the world benefits greatly. The gift I strive to give others, each and every day, is to live courageously in my divine truth and to TRUST that who I AM is enough. This is Purpose in action.
If this is what you seek for yourself, begin the journey now by exploring the following questions:
- What kind of world do I create?
- Can I be trusted?
- Do others feel safe around me?
The two most important days in your LIFE are the day you are BORN and the Day you find out WHY – Mark Twain
The path to Purpose isn’t easy. It will hurt. It will take time. It will require dedication and willpower. It commands sacrifice and you will need to make self-honoring choices. There will be temptations and distractions.
But, I promise you, when you find Purpose, your life will change forever.
Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it – Gautama Buddha